MY "SPACE"

“I need My SPACE”

Many a times our inner, subconscious mind craves for it - ‘My SPACE’ 

An area which is otherwise empty but your presence makes it special, your simply being there, gives a meaning to it. It’s only yours. It’s between you & you alone. A place where you feel free, calm, stress-free, at peace, at ease from your everyday chaotic schedule. 

When we are engaged with our life, we receive & accept it as it is. We all are so much into working, completing never-ending to-do lists that we sometimes forget that we should also be with ourselves, we need to discover ourselves. 

May be this space changes as the person grows up. It’s a playground when you are a kid. It’s your college when you are a teen. A quiet corner of home for an adult. It can be just anything. Your very ‘own’ place, making you feel safe, serene, free and happy. 

Being at home, with family, close friends makes us feel complete. Yes, we can be ourselves wherever we go. Sometimes, in fact many a times, we dissolve into crowd, almost disappear. That makes us not to worry about ourselves any longer. This way we are free and can become anything we want to. But this is different, It’s escaping, may be from the reality. Remember, ‘Alice' in the wonderland?

Why do we crave for this ‘my space’ then?

That’s because it gives us the ease to take a moment to pause & breathe; to spend quality time with our self; do what we like to - gaze at the sky, stars; simply watch people & devise backstories for them, create a list of goals, to go at our own pace, think & reflect and rediscover things certainly about our self, to appreciate all that we have in our life; to reflect on what we have done, what we have to do, who we are, acknowledge just how far we have come & so on.

Psychologist Christopher Patterson in his book, says that ‘happy places are easily available contributing to the meaning of our Lives. They make us more creative and happy’ 

Your space should definitely make you happy at the least. Nevertheless, you need not be always creative here. In fact, creativity can blossom anywhere, even in a busy bustling surrounding. The famous English writer E. B. White happily wrote in a noisy & fussy environment which could be well-compared to some Carnival going on (that was his house.) But he too admits that whenever he got sick of it, he had to find his own solace. That’s the reason he goes on to say that – “A writer who waits for ideal conditions under which to work will die without putting a word on paper”

We all certainly wish to have this space for ourselves. But we only wish. May be, we don’t really understand what we need to do or what needs to be done to unleash our true potential. And in turn just keep our best things still hiding inside us.  I think it requires really an incredible willingness to find such space for oneself. Just like the Dhruv, who dared to find himself an unswerving, unique spot. 

This ‘me time' is what we really need today. A place to just get lost somewhere where we can get our best connection with our self.